Valentine's Day 2017 - Reflections

Ten days ago was Valentine's Day. From what I see and hear, it's supposed to be about spending time with that special someone. Those of us whose status reads "single" or "not in a relationship" could feel left out with all the red decor and ads for dinner and roses and gifts and more. And I suppose there was a time it bothered me more.

This year, most of the day was spent at a work event. I went through most of the day not remembering or dwelling on this "special" day. When it was ended though, I thought to myself - why can't I treat myself to a some good food? So I did! I ordered a vegetarian Indian dish and a side of naan. I enjoyed it over 4 days.

I reflected on all of it and realised that I've come a far way. There was a time I would be acutely aware of my singleness and perhaps a bit sad. Now I embrace it. I enjoy its freedom, it perks. I know that one day I will find the most amazing partner, one with whom I'll have great chemistry, one who will support me as I him, one with whom I can be myself and we can have lots of fun and laughter together.

Regardless of the season - single, dating, married, widowed - we can be fulfilled. Single I am now but regardless of when that changes, I intend to appreciate and live out Ecclesiastes 11:9-10:

You who are young, be happy while you are young,
    and let your heart give you joy in the days of your youth.
Follow the ways of your heart
    and whatever your eyes see,
but know that for all these things
    God will bring you into judgment.
So then, banish anxiety from your heart
    and cast off the troubles of your body,
    for youth and vigor are meaningless.

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