Un-LEash

Ten days ago was Valentine's Day. From what I see and hear, it's supposed to be about spending time with that special someone. Those of us whose status reads "single" or "not in a relationship" could feel left out with all the red decor and ads for dinner and roses and gifts and more. And I suppose there was a time it bothered me more. This year, most of the day was spent at a work event. I went through most of the day not remembering or dwelling on this "special" day. When it was ended though, I thought to myself - why can't I treat myself to a some good food? So I did! I ordered a vegetarian Indian dish and a side of naan. I enjoyed it over 4 days. I reflected on all of it and realised that I've come a far way. There was a time I would be acutely aware of my singleness and perhaps a bit sad. Now I embrace it. I enjoy its freedom, it perks. I know that one day I will find the most amazing partner, one with whom I'll have great chem...

Today marks nine years since my Grandma Lola passed on. It's hard to believe it was so long ago, and yet I remember the day well. It was a Saturday morning, and I was in my rented room in Barbados. I don't recall the time, but it was early enough. I saw the call coming from her phone and I knew... My heart broke the day I heard grandma was hospitalized, but it shattered the day she died. Not only that, but it was the loneliest I've ever felt, being away from everyone at home and feeling distant. There were so many thoughts around that time - how do I manage with all this? Did she know I loved her? How would I maintain good grades on a scholarship when I lost one of the most important people in my life? How long would it hurt? And on and on... Grandma is part of why I am the way I am. She was devoted to her God and to helping those around her. She showed me what love is by simply being herself and living. Losing her was the lowest point in my life. But because she "...